Tag: Alumni

Men’s Issues: I Don’t Want To Look Weak

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Nobody likes to look weak, and even worse is feeling weak. Culturally, men are trained to avoid any signs of weakness as best they can. Think about that for a second. The word fear isn’t used, but men are conditioned to fear weakness. Even more than that, we’re biologically wired to fear things we think are weak. Nobody can see us cry. No one must ever hear us ask for help. We can never let anyone challenge us, or “punk” us, or make us feel small. Because if any of that happened, we’d be weak. And weak men lose. Right? Not really. Mostly all of this is wrong. And I’m not talking about some reverse-psychology reframing of things to make them sound tough; I’m talking about actual strength. We don’t have a clear picture of that in society today. Male role models are typically superhero muscular, handsome, and wealthy. But…

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Complacency in Recovery (and How to Avoid It)

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Everybody loves to feel enthusiastic and excited about things. However, as alcoholics and addicts, we are warned to avoid overexposure to enthusiasm and excitement. We are told not to chase after these feelings because we can get hooked on intense feelings like those we got used to in our active disease. It can lead us to jeopardy when we overvalue the extreme up-and-down feelings. Extreme feelings are a topic all their own. But what about their opposite? Sometimes we can grow numb to feelings or get trapped in monotony. Or even worse, we can become complacent about our lives and lose any feelings for the beautiful life we have. Being complacent and feeling numb can be just as dangerous and detrimental as extreme feelings. Complacency often signals more than a few alarming things. It can mean we’ve lost our gratitude or lost sight of how far we’ve come from the…

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Mike K: 3 Year Sober

When an all staff email comes across about one of our many alums that work at Jaywalker, we all pause for hugs, high-fives, and gratitude.  Mike is a crucial part of the men’s experience at Jaywalker Lodge on arrival.  Thank you Mike for all you do!  Here is the endearing email we all received yesterday: Hello All, My dear friend Mike Koschlakijflkasjfiojeoajfdlksj is celebrating 3 years sober today! Mike for the longest time thought today was Cinco de Mayo but did not realize that Cinco de Mayo is in fact May 5th and not May 2nd. Mike does not speak Spanish. Anyways, I wanted to give a big shout out to Mike for role modeling to our men what sobriety can look like and that works. Mike is seen at every meeting on every night, and although that takes away from our time together it allows him to be a…

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Jon Lencioni – Alumni Coordinator

We would like to announce the addition of Jon Lencioni to the Jaywalker team, as Alumni Coordinator.  Jon’s ability to lead and understand the Jaywalker community is unapparelled and we are thrilled to have him in this position. Jon grew up in Menlo Park, Ca. Being outside playing sports was always his passion. At an early age, Jon started “experimenting” with drugs and alcohol which soon turned in to a full-blown addiction. This caused his pursuit of his passion for the outdoors and sports to fade. After high school, Jon took some time away from education and his addiction only worsened.  In 2009, Jon went back to school and attended a local community college in the Bay Area. He then transferred to San Diego State University where he pursued a degree in Entrepreneurship. It was in San Diego that his use caught up with his. He knew he had no…

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Jaywalker Alumni: Keystone, CO

Five months ago I was alone, full of fear and completely stuck. I couldn’t escape the pain I was causing myself. Time and time again I had convinced myself that I could do some controlled drinking. Once again, I was stuck with that same hopeless gut wrenching feeling. I knew I couldn’t go on like this but was unable to pull myself out on my own accord. By the grace of God some Jaywalker alumni reached out their hand and I put down the fight. I thank God for that split second moment of clarity. Looking back my life has change dramatically in just six short months. Today, I am blessed with so many opportunities for which I can finally show up. I’m striving to be the man I always knew I was meant to be. My life is by no means easy today but it is satisfying to go…

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Why The Steps Didn’t Work For Me

Recently, I was helping my parents move and was asked to go through my old stuff, to discard any “junk” and to save anything worth holding onto.  While sifting through the relics of my past, I came across an old journal that I kept as a teen.  I spoke candidly about how it felt to be me; the things that were hard, the things that I was curious about, my perception of the world around me, and my experiences with drugs and alcohol.   As I read, I discovered that even back then, in the genesis of my journey, I was able to see that my use of drugs was a “solution” to a problem that was spiritual in nature; and that this solution, although effective, was only creating more problems in my life. I was taken aback to read this, considering that it took me another 15 years of attempting…

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Mark M: A Decade Sober

“It was 10 years ago today, that my life changed forever. On 12/18/07 I decided to get sober. It has been the hardest and best thing I’ve ever faced.  So, if you’re reading this I imagine you’ve impacted my life in a great way. I just wanted to thank you for the love and support over the years. This path in life has far exceeded any expectations that I could have ever had. I’m truly humbled by this incredible life that I am fortunate to live and learn from. Thanks everyone.” -Mark M. Mark M. was one of the first people I met when I came to Jaywalker Lodge.  I was nervous and uncertain of how to attain my next 24hours sober.  Mark shook my hand and said,  “lets take a walk.”  We walked around Carbondale, connecting on the life that we wanted and how abstinence was required but not sufficient….

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Alumni Trip – St. George, UT 2017

I am often amazed in my recovery at the abundance of opportunity that I have to do things in life that seemed once impossible.  In the not too distant past, clouds of fear, prejudice and stubbornness swirled in my head at the first mention of doing something outside my comfort zone; paralyzing self-doubt kept me from experiences that I inwardly yearned for greatly.  As a Jaywalker alumni, I can say without hesitation that today my desire to push these hesitations and foster new capabilities in sobriety is one of the greatest gifts I have received in recovery, and my willingness to share with and learn from my brothers-in-arms is one of my greatest assets. Most recently I had the opportunity to utilize these new-found strengths at the Jaywalker Alumni trip to St. George, Utah.  First off, to say “I was stoked” to get an extra week of summer weather in October…

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Recovery through Service – Independence Pass

Jaywalker Lodge staff, clients, and alumni spent time this week volunteering on Independence Pass.  Jaywalker Expedition Director, Lynn Sanson, organized yet another outing to help our outdoor community remove obsolete cable, poles, and phone lines; restoring visual serenity to a 10 mile strech on Independence Pass.  The Aspen Times details the service work and operation in the article linked below.  We are grateful for the opportunity to recover through service this week in one of the most serene spots in the Roaring Fork Valley!‘Eyesore’ wires will be removed from old telephone poles on Aspen’s Independence Pass

Jaywalker Spring Alumni Trip – Moab, UT

“…to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host a friends, this is an experience you must not miss” Alcoholics Anonymous Page 89It is no secret that this is one of my favorite passages in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, it epitomizes everything that the Jaywalker Alumni Program represents. This past weekend I had the honor of taking 20 Jaywalker alums to Moab, UT for our annual spring trip. Past Jaywalker clients from Florida, Denver, Boulder, and the Roaring Fork Valley all met up in Moab for a weekend of mountain biking, dirt biking, four wheeling, golf, and of course fellowship. Big shout out to alumnus Andrew P for organizing, prepping, and cooking all of our wonderful meals, thanks for all you do brother. John S.

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