Month: August 2020

Treating Depression in Recovery

Treating Depression in Recovery

Among alcoholics and addicts both in and out of recovery, issues of mental and emotional health are highly prevalent. All of these issues — from substance abuse and recovery to mental and emotional health problems — often have correlating causes and sources. Just as often, they have related treatments and solutions as well. Some studies claim that as many as 30% to 40% of alcoholics also suffer from depression. Likewise, one of every four 4 adults with a mental health issue also experiences a substance abuse disorder. Two-thirds of people with depression do not actively seek help. In this regard, alcoholics and addicts may be lucky, as our primary disease requires us to seek treatment and recovery in order to live. Even more luckily, the 12-Step program of recovery can help us grow and heal in ways that may make us more likely to seek treatment and help for the…

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Men’s Issues: The Hole in the Doughnut

Men’s Issues: The Hole in the Doughnut

At Jaywalker Lodge, we help men who struggle with achieving long-term recovery from alcoholism and addiction. We particularly seek to reach the ones who can’t seem to stay in recovery, despite the honest desire to do so. These are the Jaywalkers, just like we were. By being part of this specific population of alcoholics and addicts, and recognizing what has helped and continues to help men like us, we have identified techniques, actions, and ways of thinking that are effective. We have also been able to recognize common themes and dangerous patterns that seem to plague men who struggle to maintain sobriety. We would like to take time to address these men’s issues and share useful information and insights. This month, we have selected an extremely common fear amongst men — fear of being the hole in the doughnut. What Does a Doughnut Have to Do With Me? This fear…

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What If the Obsession to Drink or Use Doesn’t Go Away?

What If the Obsession to Drink or Use Doesn’t Go Away?

For alcoholics and addicts, the mental obsession to drink or use is one of the most dangerous symptoms of our disease. It is a hallmark symptom, and one from which we have all suffered. In the same way that our disease is something common among us, so too is our solution. If the 12-Steps work for one alcoholic or addict, they can work for another. Though we have the disease and solution in common, it is often the case that our recovery happens on a different timeline from person to person. This is perfectly normal. Just like with medicine, some people return to health faster and some more slowly. It doesn’t mean the medicine is bad or the person is bad — it just means that each person has their own unique and personal healing to do. Early in sobriety, it is not uncommon for us to experience vivid dreams…

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Love and Tolerance of Others Is Our Code

Love and Tolerance of Others Is Our Code

For most alcoholics and addicts, it was our personal relationships — with friends, family, significant others, or even strangers — that we found to be the most vexing and difficult. We couldn’t be the person we wanted to be when interacting with others, and we often seemed to cause harm even when our intentions were good. Now, in recovery, it is still often our relationships with others that cause confusion and require us to work the 12-Steps with renewed purpose. When seen from the proper perspective, our relationships with others are the most beautiful and important part of life. Few things matter more than learning how to love and treat other people well. Our loved ones, and even new friends or strangers, can add so much to our lives. People Need People, Especially in Recovery It’s a fact that we can’t work the program alone. We need other people to…

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The Importance of Versatile Trauma Treatment

The Importance of Versatile Trauma Treatment

Amongst alcoholics and addicts, trauma is a sadly common experience. Traumatic events and experiences often go hand-in-hand with active alcoholism and addiction. The effects of trauma at any age can contribute to a rapid addictive decline. Often the mental and emotional wounds combine, creating a perfect storm of pain, seeking relief, more pain, more relief, and so on. For the lucky ones, the addiction cycle is eventually broken with sobriety. It is at this crucial point that it’s often necessary — even vital — to introduce trauma treatment in addition to the processes of recovery. Failure to address and treat trauma in conjunction with a recovery program can leave the sufferer unnecessarily vulnerable to relapse. It can also make maintaining recovery far more difficult than it needs to be. Healing is an important part of the recovery process, and healing from trauma is of particular importance. Effective Types of Trauma…

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Finding Serenity in Calamity

Finding Serenity in Calamity

No ocean, no matter how beautiful, is calm all the time. There will inevitably be storms. But when we sailed the ocean of life in our active alcoholism and addiction, we were sailing with a boatload of extra trouble. Now that we have entered recovery at Jaywalker Lodge, our ship is no longer making things worse. The 12-Step program and active recovery have taught us how to be better sailors and shipbuilders, so to speak. We see the ocean of life for the beautiful thing it really is. But this doesn’t mean that there will never be storms. It does, perhaps, mean we’ll be causing less of them, but life does not stop being life just because we’re sober. We simply, finally, have a design for living well and better that really works. Prepare for Rough Seas Though calamity will eventually come, we can meet it with a better attitude,…

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How Can I Encourage Someone In Recovery?

How Can I Encourage Someone In Recovery?

Most of us have a loved one who has struggled with alcoholism or addiction at some point in their lives, whether it’s a child, a significant other, a parent, or a friend. Much of our questions and concerns revolve around what to do to help them when they are in their active disease. We have discussed this previously, and there are many resources available. If someone you love is struggling to achieve or maintain recovery, Jaywalker Lodge is a phone call away. But what if you’re one of the lucky ones whose loved one has found recovery, and now you have questions of a different nature? Now that they’re sober and working a program, what can you do to support and encourage them? Actions Speak Louder Than Words — But Words Are Nice, Too This may seem obvious, but for people who have never struggled with alcoholism or addiction, there…

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Embracing the Good in Life

Embracing the Good in Life

Most alcoholics and addicts unwittingly become accustomed to negative circumstances, high-stress feelings, and what we often call “bad luck.” While everyday life does sometimes bring these things, it’s seldom as negative and stressful as our life in active alcoholism or addiction was. Unfortunately, many alcoholics and addicts like us get so used to the worst parts of life that we can have a hard time adjusting to a more calm, peaceful, and productive way of living. We walk around tense without even knowing it, quietly waiting for “the other shoe to drop.” We are not meant to live our lives looking over our shoulders for bad karma to catch up with us. The 12-Steps are designed to help us process, reconcile, and make right our checkered pasts to the best of our ability. This 12-Step recovery program is designed to help us break free from the past and teaches us…

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We Believe #2: The Daily Choice To Stay

We Believe #2: The Daily Choice To Stay

At Jaywalker Lodge, we live in accordance with our values. Our philosophy guides our daily activities and actions, and the things we believe in form the core of who we are and what we do. That is why we are taking the time to explore our 12 “We Believe” statements one by one. These are our guiding principles at Jaywalker Lodge, and we want to share them with you so you can see how, why, and who we are and what makes us different. This month, we are discussing our “We Believe” statement #2: We believe it is a daily choice to stay in treatment, and to stay in recovery while in treatment. At Jaywalker Lodge, we truly believe that the choice is made anew every day to stay in treatment, to stay in recovery while in treatment, and to build a life of hope, meaning, and fulfillment. The Power…

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Don’t Give Up On Yourself

It’s common for those of us who are new to recovery to have low opinions of ourselves. We are still healing from our active alcoholism and addiction, and we may find it difficult to shake a bleak view of who we are and the future we expect to have. But one major key to happy and successful recovery is embracing a hopeful outlook, and this includes a kinder view of ourselves. Recovery isn’t about paying the price for our past — the past was punishment enough. Recovery is about righting what we can, healing as best we can, and having hope for the future. When we keep beating ourselves up for the past, or for not being who we want to be, we lose our motivation to stay in recovery. Nobody wants to help someone they don’t like and if we expect to enjoy long-term recovery, we really need to…

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